OF, I can't tell you how glad I am to see your post. Not sure how you even found this thread again but I'm glad you did.

I'm really sorry to hear about you and your ex and the unfortunate events during the divorce. How long has it been? How're you doing now? How's life looking for you?

You're absolute right and you were right before. We swept our problems under the rug instead of resolving them. I say we because I made mistakes too. I could've been more compasionate to her, I could've been nicer and more appreciative of her. We both started taking eachother for granted and with our communication always being the biggest issue we never could give eachother early warning signs. I still don't get how people could desert their families and walk away like it's nothing...

However, now it's already done, I'm sorry about it but I can't change the past. I'm broken inside because of my DD but I will do everything in my power to give her love and affection that she deserves.

As for the lawyer, I understand what you're saying. It's to protect myself and not to hurt her. However, I'm truly at a loss for how to find a good lawyer. The one I had last time I never felt he was that good or would fight for me. Two, with the divorce court system the way it is can a lawyer really make that much of a difference?

Again, OF, it was really nice to hear from you and I hope Kiki's having a much better luck than us rebuilding her family.

Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6
Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks
Aug 2006, left again
Apr 2007, filed for divorce
Dec 2007, reunited
Mar 2010, moved out, filed again