Need a Plan for My Marriage

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Well, I have a plan but I need to put the peices together first before I disclose everything. She has been checking up on me, not that I care. I just do not want her to find out until I play it my way. Not being a "Wuzzy" guy, just being smart about it. The information on the OMW was not released because payment was not received yet. I do not want her to tell the OM and have him stop me from contacting his W first. He would probably change the number or something. I think I need to do this first and then put more boundaries in place after that. She is taking the kids to a work related event and does not want me to come, so I am not. I am pretty sure that he will be there. I did not want to fight anymore about in front of the kids.

They do know the reason that she does not want me to come because she told them. I was going to fight to the end, but I thought about what I read here, and it did not seem to be the thing to do. I did tell her that I will no longer tolerate her having an open marriage, and that there would be consequences and those will take place soon. I will cancel her text messaging on her phone since it is under my name and Password protect it so she cannot change it back. I will contact the OMW as soon as possible, and I have already done other things. I will do more and say more when the timing is right. I do not plan to back down. I have discussed this so much in the past because I am a talkative person, so now I try to say what I need and leave it that. I am trying the 180 approach which is basically not talking to her for me and not being nice. It is hard but necessary.

I know guys are going to probably put me through the wringer for the way I am doing it, but I will do my best.

I am pursuing a great job opportunity, and it is going good so far. I do have to compete with other applicants, but I will do the best I can. That is all I can do, right?

I need support because I certainly do not get that at home, and that is why I am here to do the best I can to be better and keep my family intact. With help from you guys I know I can do that. I have not given up, and I will not. I do not plan to continue the way it has been.

Keep the strong positive advice coming, please. I need that right now!

Thanks