She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

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ok tbart apparently something has transpired and it's easy to read by what you wrote and the tone.

It may be out of the norm for you but that's what you need to do. Let her have her space and breathing room....THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT AT THIS STAGE.

Most of us have made the mistake of relentless pursuit - including basically following them around the house like a puppy, buying gifts, flowers, cards, being overly nice and doting over them...they want none of this and it actually has the reverse effect of pushing them further away.

I'm sure peace2u can attest to this.

Maybe peace2u can give you more specific instructions on what is being nice and pursuing.

I would do as you are doing. Let her initiate everything. Anything you initiate right now will be seen by her as pursuing and will push her away.

You have a few weeks to get yourself straight. That will be easier to do while you still have no physical contact right now.

Now please be detailed in your next post. Include what has transpired and your thoughts and feelings. Without this we can give you any feedback.

Also, please define what quite a while is..when was the last time you initiated?

tbart, I can't stress this enough:

THIS STAGE IS CRITICAL. I screwed up at this stage and it had a major negative impact on my sitch. I would love to see you not make the same mistakes I made.

Again, this first stage is critical, more critical than you can imagine.