Tal, you can talk to H on the phone, but you don't need to answer when he calls. You're busy GAL!
And you don't need to push the mail thing. It's better to make the statement once then follow through. If/when he asks about some particular piece down the road you tell him that you already explained what you would do with his mail if he didn't submit the change of address. Simple.
Missing the memory is fine. Just understand that it is a memory. No use spending a lot of energy wishing and waiting for something that no longer exists.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g