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[ClingingToHope]

I've followed your sitch for a long time and my heart goes out to you. All you want is what you deserve, a man devoted to you and your son.

I almost wish your H was more of an *ss so you could flip the switch. But he seems to always want to have options, backup plans. It isn't fair to you and financially I don't see how you are holding out.

I pray that things go smoothly for you and the process eases your pain. I fear it won't and there's a lot more bumps along the way. We all have been told and then tell others that time is the only true healer here.

You are just 27 and someday you'll look back on this time with pride -- sadness probably -- but you've done all you could to keep your family together. Ten years from now I'm guessing you'll be happily married to a man devoted to you and your boy.

I hope in 10 years your ex will finally have grown up and realized what he threw away -- and become the dad he always should have been.