No longer "stuck808". Now my name is Bond. "MrBond

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How are interactions with your W? Still tense?

I wouldn't say our interactions were tense except for when I confronted about her cheating as well as dealing the financial crap of the D. I would call it more of an "artificial harmony" which is more of what's been going on in my mind. She continues the pretense that we will be friends - i.e. even this week she called to remind me that vision care (I'm still on her benefits) is active so that I can get new glasses/contacts as it has been 12 months.... and today, when she dropped off the boys, she gave a bag of brownie cookies she had made. She has tried some chit chat stuff of telling me about her day a couple of times when I called to talk to the boys.... but I usually I just do a yeah, that sucks response and say goodbye. Every once in a while I do the "listen and empathize" thing but it's just too hard for me to do it.

We had gone to a bday party together a couple of times and I remained very cordail and acted as a gentlemen should with any woman around me.

So.... I guess the tension is coming from more from me as she is soooooo content with us getting a D and with us being BFF's. That is NOT going to happen. I will continue to be polite and treat her as a gentlemen should, but ever since I found out the truth, I'm pretty much done trying to show her how I would treat a wife. Even with the D crap, I enter business mode and just negotiate to make sure I get my fair share and then some.

Sounds like your situation may be making a turn. I proud of you bro!