I also realized, I still need to fix myself.

And if anything getting too involved with her will impede my getting better.

Because I would be just like a mlc'er fixing someone else so don't have to work on myself.

I mean heck, I bought a motorcycle, a dirt bike, tried to buy a farm house, still anxious as heck, lonely, etc.

I need to get all my balance back, before I can be anywhere near healthy for someone else.

Shoot I still talk about my divorce and my wife, not bad mind you, keep defending her when it comes up.

When I quit having that strong feeling towards wife and stopping talking about the divorce,etc, then it might be time to look for a relationship.