Game Point

[tryingtilDorR]

I've been busy the past couple of days. I am seeing W in a new light. She has walked away from M and I am realizing that I don't miss HER, I miss having a wife and want an in-tact family. I don't want to have to endure the financial implications of divorce or make my kids endure it either. It is an important distinction. Sure I would want her back in the form of the person she was before, but she isn't that person anymore. I think other LBSs come to this realization eventually as well.

The question in all of our minds is will the WAS change back into the person we remember or will they stay in their current unappealing state?

Right now my W is incredibly cold and distant. She seems irritated all the time. She can't even hold a simple conversation and she doesn't seem comfortable in our home. Even though she has been cold and distant for over a year it seems to have been taken to a new level recently as she gets more and more serious about trying to move out.

I have told her to go, I will pay support based upon what we decided at mediator, and the ball is in her court. The only thing I AM doing is staying in my home as long as I can, and if she files for D I will do my best to try to buy her out and keep it otherwise we sell it. It is game point and her serve, but I really don't feel like a victim since she is having to take all the initiative to move out and also file for D or whatever. I am just living my life (or trying to live it as normally as possible).