Thanks for your viewpoint Cautious. I hope you are right that she may still feel something but it sure as hell doesnt feel that way to me right now.

She only called me when she had things that needed to be done that was technical or guy stuff etc. My Son is her landlord but he basically just ignores her or procrastinates on her requests until she gets frustrated with him.

Basically she is on the phone with me because she only has three choices. Either 1)Con me into doing it for her. 2)Pay somebody to do it or 3)Get an OM to do it for her. And option 3 will complicate things for her as I do not think she wants another man around her wanting the usual favors that men want when they do labor for a woman. Sad but true, that is how most of us think. Present company excluded for now.

My only fear is that in my darkness she will seek help from other men. But then again, what do I have to lose? What is she going to do? Divorce me? Like I have been told before, she needs to know what life will be like without me. This going grey thing was only temporary and what I expected to happen actually did happen. Not really a surprise. I took my chances and lost.

Anyway, Im going back to counting the lint in my belly button in the dark. It's a new hobby of mine.

Ironically, the kind of stuff I used to do for my XW I am now doing for my female friend. At least she feeds me and is friendly and affectionate towards me. And NO there is no sex involved. We have set that boundry up in our friendship. And she has made this perfectly clear. You have to love a woman that knows what she wants and will tell you straight up with no BS. Only wish my wife was like this when we were married to each other.

And yes you are absolutely right. There is nothing stronger than seeing the woman you love wearing that little black dress. This absolutely drives us guys crazy. Use that to your advantage. Let him know what he is missing. He may not act like it but I guarantee you he will be thinking about you tonight. I would bet money on it.

Good luck Cautious. We both need it now.


Me:48
W:55
M:22
T:23
Bomb:19Nov09
S:15Jan10
D:11Feb10
EA:Confirmed on 20Apr10
Fast track to her divorcing me