The journey begins

[ClingingToHope]

Ah, the complications begin. W doesn't like the final candidate for the after school sitting job. So she signed D7 up for Y care after school. She didn't tell me until after D7 told me in the car.

She called to say she was going to see if D11 could go to a friend's house after school.

That way it would save her money and she'd be able to deduct the daycare on her taxes next year.

It's smart financially, but right now I get to see the kids after school every day and she'd be taking that away from me -- without even discussing it.

I told her on the phone that's four fewer days a week that I get to see them and I don't like that. She said she can't afford the money she was paying the sitter and she needs to deduct it.

She asked if she could at least ask the friend's mom if D11 could go over there.

I said she could ask. Then I emailed me attorney to see what my options are.

Since that would be 4 to 5 hours fewer a week with the girls I asked the L if I should propose an additional night a week. That'd be Thursdays and we'd be up to a 50/50 custody split.

This is where it gets tricky since I'll be fighting her request for full custody.