"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Just checking in....yesterday W was off. Instead of staying home and enjoying the kids she told them that she had a "meeting" to go to. Arrived home at 11:00 Pm all dolled up. Said hi I said hi..I pretty much ignored her as I continue to focused on detaching.
On Tuesday went to dance class as my GAL activity. I am meeting with Friends tomorrow for dinner and drinks. Saturday I'm taking the kids paintballing and Sunday I will probably come it to work.
Hope all is well for everyone...
Okay stupid questions (I have already braced myself for the hit :))....Is it possible that I could detach too much? For example, I do not initate any convo and for the most part limit my answers to yes, no, thank you. Could this be viewed as "giving up"? Just wondering.....just wondering...
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Is it speed ball....suxxors. Or the real paint ball capture the flag type?
Awesome!!!
Umm...
Yes you can, is the honest answer. HOWEVER (not a but) Nothing YOU have to worry about right now. IF she was trying to engage and recommitt and you were acting like a distant prickel. Then you..you dettached too much. You ain't there so get the thought out of your pretty lil head.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Okay...when/how will I know that she is trying to recommitt? She seems a little more approachable but then again I have not seen any signs of the depression so I your probably right I am not there yet.
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pretty lil head.
Obviously you've seen my alt picture
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
I am not going to go into all of the details but (sorry I should however :))....I confronted W about OM. As expected she denied it. I did not show her the proof I had nor did I get into how I obtained the info, which I think is killing her. I only brought this up because she wanted to take the kids Saturday to meet her co-workers (I knew OM was in the mix) - for me this was enough. I will say that I was calm cool and collected. At least I thought...another poster, whom I called may confirm this (I'm not call you out).
Some of the points of our convo...
W - you never loved me. M - You have no idea how much I love you. This is why I have sat here knowing that you are with someone else but trying to understand what you may be going thru.
W - Here you go accusing me again of an affair, which you did our entire marriage. M - Yes I did do it in our M and for this I appologize; however I do know what is going on. I respect you buy I do not respect what you are doing.
W - You never respected me. M - Maybe I did not show you the respect you were looking for all the time and for this I appologize - I do respect you, you though DO NOT respect me.
More a little later.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Ouch! Typical defense of herself by trying to make you the sole guilty party. Those convo's never are good. And pretty much anything you say after "I know you are having an affair" is just fuel on the flames.
I can totally relate to "this was enough". However, I doubt she will make it obvious to the kids what is going on like mine did (kissing OM in front of a 7 and 5 year old). Probably more subtle like my mom - and it was only after her affair was exposed that I started to connect the dots, times and places.
