The thing i find hard is she is trying to be open with me, but in my eyes she needs to be doing more, especially the saying sorry thing....and i have told her that. her response is that she is afraid i will go back to the way i was, and that she has seen hints of it showing through so can't let her guard down.
her doing this does upset me - which is what the old me would do, pout and crap like that....but i am trying not to do that as well. just been punched so many times lately that i need something to show me she is committed to workign with me.
kind of sounds like the chicken and the egg pardox doesn't it...lol
You BOTH have put each other through a wringer.
Give her time. Give yourself time. When I moved back home, there were some rocky moments/days b/c neither one of us was SURE that the old marriage was gone. And I don't mean just in the beginning - I mean that we still today work through old junk. I don't worry so much that he will pick up his old ways, but it crosses my mind how he used to handle things with me. And I wouldn't be shocked to find out that he still feels twinges of hurt b/c I left. But with time, these feelings have decreased and with that comes an increase in openess.
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Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
