I hope you are right ThisCan'tBTheEnd. I have 180'ed my whole life, there are still things I am working on changing, and I feel good. For teh first time I think in my life I am truly happy and I want to share it with the person who sacraficed so much to keep our family togetehr until the day she had finally had enough. But when she left it made me take inventory of my life and I realized what I had done and what she had done and I made a change on the spot for the better. I do enjoy being comfortable, but it is hard for me to not want more. I want things to be at least as good as the best time I can remember. I want to start with the best time and go up from there. I want to address the concerns she has, which was my intention of the Tuesday talk. I even asked if it would help to go back to counseling to get it out in the open, and she said no, that she would not be able to talk to them either. Any suggestions on how to get concerns out tehre to deal with? I have no problem dealing with these things now, I feel I am strong enough finally. And I do not want to push, like you said.
Originally Posted By: ThisCan'tBTheEnd
It sounds like good things are happening. Don't push. Keep showing her you are a better person---that the changes you have made are permanent and she will get "why" that is......hang in there.
So in your opinion, from what you know from this thread you think things are progressing OK? I am tryign not to push and that is hard, butt he ersults will be worth it. I am just worried about going through all this and getting to what I think is the end and she is not there or she has used the time I gave her to find someone else. I guess I just do not wnat to lose my wife. We did have an incredible relationship once. I really scr3#$d the puch on this one!!!
