Struggling with Hope

[ericmsant2]

All -

I am not going to go into all of the details but (sorry I should however :))....I confronted W about OM. As expected she denied it. I did not show her the proof I had nor did I get into how I obtained the info, which I think is killing her. I only brought this up because she wanted to take the kids Saturday to meet her co-workers (I knew OM was in the mix) - for me this was enough. I will say that I was calm cool and collected. At least I thought...another poster, whom I called may confirm this (I'm not call you out).

Some of the points of our convo...

W - you never loved me.
M - You have no idea how much I love you. This is why I have sat here knowing that you are with someone else but trying to understand what you may be going thru.

W - Here you go accusing me again of an affair, which you did our entire marriage.
M - Yes I did do it in our M and for this I appologize; however I do know what is going on. I respect you buy I do not respect what you are doing.

W - You never respected me.
M - Maybe I did not show you the respect you were looking for all the time and for this I appologize - I do respect you, you though DO NOT respect me.

More a little later.