She has attached her depression to the marriage and the marriage to the home

MANY depressives have an upside as well... the probelm is they go up and down and up and down.. its a crazy painful ride.

I am NOT an expert, read up on it... I won't presume to say more about that.

If you get something, just enjoy it, don't charge in for more no... you got it, that's how they get you...

yes, hit a gym, do some sort of crafts around the house or whatever.

You may want to work out at home so you can keep an eye on her.

SOmetimes your wife wants to know you ARE there, but she just doesn't want you in her FACE