WAW and me in 11th hour!!!!

[Ken62]

Had a good talk with DB Coach Chuck this morning and he said that it sounds like I'm doing pretty well and that my WAW may be moving forward pretty well also. He was NOT too thrilled about my going out with my new female friend even as friends. He said whether you call it dating or going out as friends that it is just semantics. I disagree with this because I think it sends a signal to my W that I am not waitig around for her. I am GAL and it may not include her and I am NOT waiting around for her so she can't count on me. He said to keep up the mystery and if she asks to do things together to only accept about 50% of them. This will tell her that I'm not always going to be available at her every whim and hopefully those times that we do spend together will be good memories for her. He said that I could also ask if she wants to do something but be prepared for a NO and I may or may not try that. I haven't decided yet.

The really odd thing that my W said this past Monday night while we were talking for 3 hours was the whole concept of "If you love something let it go..." She used it in the context of my having someone new in my life. Like she is letting me go. WTF???? Where does this logic come from? She is the one who wants to end this. How does she get to say that she loves me and is LETTING me go? This must be another of those WAW things I will NEVER understand. Any ideas Sandi?

She also mentioned that she is starting to remember more of the positive things from our past. Why would she say this? Chuck feels that she is starting to feel more comfortable around me and can share things with me but some of the things she shares seem to come out of left field and then at the end of the whole 3 hours she is back to talking about splitting up the Christmas ornaments and the photo albums somehow. It's like she is trying to remind me that this IS happening but Chuck said to smile a little on the inside because this is probably her trying to put herself back on course because things felt like she was getting a little confused. Don't know if that is true but it works for me!

Ken