How to approach W about OM

[OfficerInNeed]

It is a good sign ya.. be VERY careful in feeding her more memories.. tread lightly there, she may at any time snap the door shut on you for pursuing her.

Good sign though yes, I would take it as one.

I honeslty don't think all of your wife's nastiness is you. I suspect there is some depression there. Until those chemicals are back in balance she's going to be difficult to deal with. I believe MWD has a section in DR for dealing wtih a spouse with depression. I will give that a read.

Don't be so eager for her to improve dude, she's taking her time and she needs that. Emotional processes take time. I am worried she's picking up off your eagerness. Do you have anything you do constructive at home to distract you from her at all?

As I mentioned in a previous post I keep setting myself up for failure. I got overly excited, we'll say, when she opened up a little and I continue to expect more. I need to take a step back stay focused and patient.

I agree with the depression all she does is sleep when she is home. But when I talk to my friends who are her co-workers she is a completely different person, she is talkative, "giddy", and in a good mood. Soon as she walks in the door she becomes a bitter person.

I plan on start hitting the gym again to release my stress.