Guess who e-mailed me this morning (on FB of all things) - the OW. And it really changed the outlook for my day.
Because it started BADLY! My S3 is sick and his daddy is home on a four day weekend. BUT H has a weak stomach so I had to clean up sick little guy at 7:00. Not the best start to my day.
But then I checked my e-mail. This what OW had to say -
Well, since [H's name] hasn't called me in almost two weeks (since I went to Las Vegas apparently) I guess you win. I know he is alive and well because I'm just sly like that. (She's on his FB page! How 'sly' does she think that makes her?) I hope it all works out for you, but I doubt it will. Karma is funny like that.
I laughed. This by no means indicates that things are "back to normal" whatever that means, but it was definitely a brighter way to start the day. I couldn't help but note the irony of her invoking karma. I paid my debt and I think perhaps she should be a little more concerned as to what this will mean for her. And what's this about 'winning'? He isn't some toy for her to argue with me over. He is my H and she never had a valid claim. I, of course, had huge moments of fear and doubt as you all well know. But she doesn't and I hope she's feeling the well-deserved disappointment and hurt of being dumped without so much as an goodbye.
I won't respond; what on earth would I want to talk to her for? But I thought I'd share my thoughts with all of you. I went through my H's FB to see what she had been posting about her "break-up" and it was nauseating to see her mourn the loss of her "soul-mate." Too bad he was someone else's H, b^tch.
So now we are going to have R talk, not too long and thankfully now I can do it without a knot in my stomach. I'm going to bring up counseling and the Retrouvaille (sp?) retreat on our anniversary. He also suggested a marriage retreat sponsored by his unit next month in Tucson.
Wish me luck on working with him to heal and move forward.
I will be around, but work has picked up (finally) and I am getting out of the house and doing things so often that I hardly ever sit at the computer except to place orders for my business.
undefeated 24 H 24 S's 4, 2, 1 M 5 yrs
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." ~Dale Carnegie
Too bad he was someone else's H, b^tch.