Maybe "Demands" is too harsh. The last "quick" chat went like this:(W) We have to talk about what we are doing. I want the house and the kids ok? (Me)No, I'm not ready for this but I was thinking that I'd stay in the house and keep the kids here during the week for school and it would be joint custody. (W) We're going to have a problem then. That was three weeks ago. I have heard from her family that she is seeking a separation not a divorce. I find that strange. Thanks for the reply, Lost_Dad
Telling her that you are not ready implies that at some point, perhaps with time, you will be. Will you eventually be ready to separate? Or are you philosophically opposed to it? If you are opposed then tell her that, followed by, "And for that reason, while I know I cannot stop you from leaving, I will be staying put in the family home." Greek
Greek, she is aware that I want to stay married to her for life. At one time she was begging for me to "just let me go". She can't just do it herself (guilt?). I have told her that she is free to leave and it's not what I want. What I'm not ready for is the talk of who gets what and when/what we tell the kids. There has never been a divorce in my family so all this is very new to me. On her side of the family it's the other story, FIL left for seven years then returned, SIL, on her third & BIL on his second M. It's like playing a stacked deck.
Me 44 Her BIG 40 D 13 D 11 S 9 M'd 14yrs not in love bomb Sept 09 Wanting Separation Jan 10 Me trying to DB I don't hate my wife. I hate what she is doing.
