G-man, do you guys have a family therapist? One who specializes in infidelity and understands it as an addiction? A FT who puts divorce as the LAST route to explore in working wtih a marriage?
I think if a FT could feed some of this to your wife, she can get the hand-holding she needs in learning how to repair this kind of damage (its not always intuitive) and yo udon't have to humiliate yourself by educating her yourself.
