8 weeks until D Day!!

[lea74]

Hi, sorry I need to clarify something. In the UK we dont have custody agreements. Childcare arrangements are arranged between the parents and only if neccessary will go to court and an order issued e.g. if there is abuse etc. Regarding maintenance they are not tied to how much time my H spends with the kids, it is based on what we require to live, his earnings and what is required by law. Every case is individual. Fortunately for me my H has been a high earner for a long time, and has always supported us. I have also been with him for 21 years so this is taken into account.

His perception is that he shares the parenting, as in their manners, emotional wellbeing etc, not the day to day living stuff like I mentioned, e.g. school runs, activities etc. Case in point my S10 just went on a school residential he never asked if my S10 needed anything. Actually I had to buy toiletries, new wellies etc. Rob, you are right he thinks because he sees them every second weekend and calls them every nite makes him a good parent. He forgot the parents evening at school that happened a couple of weeks ago - so much for being a good parent.

When I spoke to the boys counsellor earlier today she suggested that perhaps why my H has had OW around my sons since the first time he had them on his own was because he didnt feel secure in doing it alone and therefore perhaps she is more of a support then anything. He has had them alone before whilst we were together but not very often. I thought this was an interesting observation and one I had thought about. He is feeling insecure in looking after them all on his own.

Sorry, Flo it sounds like it is really hard for you. ((())))