That sounds like a good plan there. Yes, you want it to work (and he still has that chance to make that change - it's not over til it's over!), but you have got to do what you'e got to do to protect yourself and therefore protect S. He does have a way of popping in and out of your life when it's convinient for him and that's just not healthy for you or S. It's seems like the direction you're going works b/c it gets you in the process of getting some resolution with H and moving on with your life (which needs to happen if H isn't truely willing to work on the M), but it potentially has the benefit of knocking a sense of reality into him. He keeps saying I've done nothing wrong, I can have OW and you, and you're the cause of all the problems, and unless grows up or is at least is willing to hop on the road to recovery with you and try to save this M, the reality is a D! I just really hope your H does follow thru on seeing a counselor. As I mentioned before, although my H has a long way to go, one thing the therapist did help him work thru was his feelings of blame and resentment towards me.
I can imagine how tough the custody arrangement was to write but you did it! On a side note, would you be willing to post it here (with anything personal related taken out of course). Given H's desire for the bachelor party life, I really need to seriously think about this too. (If it's all just too personal or just tough to post, I completely understand. Since you're in such a similar situation, I was just trying to figure out a fair arrangement as well).
Well, I hope tonight goes well. Is H still planning on joining you for pizza and signing the custody arrangement then?
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
