Here is another, I really liked this one and since you and my stories are similiar, I wanted to share:
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Snodderly 03/04/06
I see your w is h@ll bent on a divorce and from the get go as well. I'm sorry she's bound and determined to do this, but it's par for course for some of the mlcers to do this. Yes, divorce is unnecessary and very costly all for a piece of paper when she could just up and leave and do her own thing and come back when she's done. However, in her little mind, she thinks that she must severe the ties w/you, the relationship and family in order to have the freedom to do whatever she wants. "Freedom is another word for nothing left to do." I bet she can't even tell you want she's got her sights set on these days in the way of freedom to do things. I will say this, the grass in her rose colored shades will turn to weeds and dirt once the the papers are signed and she wakes up. It's called the search for illusive happiness and it is not found in outward things, but must be found within. In time she will discover this.
You see, wanting a divorce and pushing for one is her way to maintain control over the situation as well. They want to show everyone that they are in control, they know what they are doing at all times and no matter what, they are going to get what they want. In the end, when the crisis is over, it will not be what she thought divorce was. She's forgetting that once she's divorced, you are not liable for anything she does, you don't have to be there to pick her up when she's down. She will then have to figure things out for herself. The one important thing that she will be forced to finally do is to focus on herself and her ugly demon issues. Right now, she's not focusing on the healing part of her crisis. She's focusing on pushing and prodding to get the divorce done. Lancer, I understand how you feel. I was there once too, but I did learn and did come to understand very much so why they need to do this. In the end, if your divorce does occur, it's only a piece of paper and if you still love her enough when she wakes up, you can reconcile. I know that this isn't what you want to hear, but when they are on the train heading for a wreck, it's very hard to turn them around. Sometimes it's better to let them wreck and/or self-destruct and heal from the bottom up. I know that she's sucked you into her drama and hopefully you can detach a bit more and come to realize you need to severe yourself from her drama in order to breathe again.
Remember, this isn't about you at all, but about her and what she needs to do to heal from her childhood demons. In the end, what she's been looking for will actually be what she ran away from and destroyed in the process. Sometimes the relationship can be mended and in other instances it can't be. When that time comes, only you will be able to determine if you want to reconcile w/her. I'm hoping she'll come out the other side a more mature, wiser woman than she is exhibiting right now.
