Need some advice please!

[dday101798]

Jeff,

Ok, you asked for help, and it comes in all forms around here and for a second, I am going to have to be brutaly honest, it's not an attack on you but I do want you to take in heart personally.

Buddy, where are your balls? You work, gone for 5 days out of the week to support your family and what is the thanks you get? Oh, a spouse who gracious enough to tell you their comitting adultry. And yet YOU have to be "calm" and indicate it's "okay" that YOUR WIFE wants to "date"?!?!?!!?!?

Umm, been ther done that, and I sure as HELL did not stay calm and say it was okay.

First of all, why in the blue blazes would you not think something was seriously out of whack with a 22 year old male around? Ohhhh, no, that was mistake number one.

Secondly, you're appauled to hear her all happy and chipper? Hello, YOU told her point blank everything's "okay", sure honey, it's okay you dishonored your vows to me, off to work now, I'll be back with money in hand in a few days, have fun with the 22 year old boy-toy".

Third, have you given a long hard thought about those pictures being "missing" and what's going on in that house the other 5 days you're not there?

I'm beside myself with this one. Is this the right way for you to be handling it? NO.

I don't how you can begin this, but first thing you need to do is damage control to your dignity because I don't know who smashed it to smithereens more, you or your W.

Acting "happy and like everything's fine"? Comes much later after you have told your WAS you simply WILL NOT tolerate an open door policy marriage!!!!!