June, my advice would be to refuse him admittance to any hospital room or at home.

It is clear from this thread that a great deal of the pain that drove this event was mb28's H's doing.

It is a common result from these sorts of situations. Him showing up NOW is not healthy

I was in a very similar situation a year and a half ago... I was ill too.. and I got myself setup to do something similar at a point too.

I can only hope this is some sort of an eye opener for Mr mb28 and he takes some constructive action.