Bradley...thank you for explaining it a little better, at least for me, in your last long post.

what would taking a year off of heart surgery...to do general surgery, do to your chances of taking it back up again?

My way of thinking is just...if you move to be closer to the kids, to try and establish a more cohesive family unit, which is the most improtant thing here, does that totally demolish your chances?
or
does it mean, you take a year off of heart surgery

you know

no one says if she continues to be selfish or you determine the marriage will not work, you can not move somewhere and start fresh...

no one wishes for divorce
if divorce happens it sucks for all
even those of us who have a much richer and fuller live after divorcing than we ever did in the marriage

by moving
you will have set a precident
established you are a caring parent
willing to sacrifice
able to adapt to change