I'm not an expert.............but I've been told by those that know: Actions speak louder than words. You cannot "convince" her of anything. She has to see for herself. She has to watch. She has to learn who you are now. Maybe try pulling back a bit on the talk about R and your marriage. Enjoy being together and "comfortable" for now. If you KNOW she is uncomfortable about opening up for (possibly)more pain----then you need to do more to show her that that won't happen again......just saying. I don't know your history, or what the issues are, but try to address what her concerns are---either by being transparent/open or being a better listener----whatever it takes, without pushing.
It sounds like good things are happening. Don't push. Keep showing her you are a better person---that the changes you have made are permanent and she will get "why" that is......hang in there.
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
