Steady your point on detachment seems difficult when you're trying to reconcile. I know it needs to be done like you explained. However, it seems like you're letting go and moving on with your life when detaching? It seems counter productive if you still want your marriage. i guess that's what makes it so difficult to do sometimes.
Married 18 Me 39 W 37 D 15 D 5 Divorce Filed 8 April 2010 Beginning of Reconcile 8 Sept