Need to vent. Thought I might be seeing small changes in W over the past week but unfortunately she seems to remain the same. I've been working on the house after work until midnight each night to finish the work to get it ready for sale. I talked to my W this past Monday about selling the house. At the end of the conversation I asked W if she would want to move back home instead of her getting an apartment. I said that she could live here alone and I would stay at the other place I'm living.I even offered to give her back the dogs if she wanted. I offered to pay half for the joint house bills. This would mean she could stay at our house for less than what an apartment would cost. I told her that I wanted to do this for her so she could be by herself so she had time to think about what she wanted. I asked her to really think about it this week and let me know her decision by this weekend. So I get to the house today to do more work and my W had taken the last few pieces of her furniture this morning. I called her this morning and she said she had a moving company out early this morning. I told her that I guess this means she didn't want to move back and that she was moving forward getting her apartment. She said yes, she appreciated my offer but she wouldn't be moving back and would be getting her own apartment. Unbelievable. I'm upset, dissapointed, depressed,... don't know what to do now?

This womans heart is so cold. I can't believe she would rather move into a small apartment by herself instead of moving back into our house with the dogs. This is a tough one to deal with for me today. I feel like no matter what I do, none of it works. I figured doing all of this work would show her how serious I am about changing and being responsible. I guess maybe it is over. It's been 5 months since she left.she can file for D in 7 more months. She seemed to be much friendlier lately. I thought she was beginning to soften. Boy was I wrong. It's unbelievable to me what a good actor she is...acts friendly but it's all just to be civil so we can sell the house and she can move on. Did I mentuon she has done absolutely nothing to hekp get the house ready to sell? It's been all me again. I'm getting tired of banging my head against the wall. I'm tired of not seeing any progress. What does it take? Maybe it's time to give up? This sucks.

Sorry, just needed to vent. I've been working so hard lately on the house and everything in my life to be the man I should have been for my W years ago. Maybe she truly has fallen out of love with me.


M 38
WAW 36
Together 19 years
Married 12 years
Bomb/Separated Oct. 09
I love my wife
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