That is why I am thinking about giving up all of it.. my M, our home, my H, and just move on to start fresh.
As Cat said this is YOUR call however, make sure that you are making the choices that YOU want not what everyone else wants for YOU.
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This would be the last unselfish gift to give to my H, and since everyone wants me to give up (the H, family, friends, etc.), maybe they are all right.
When you detach from all of this and spend some time finding who YOU are then I think YOU will be able to determine what is "right". If you doing this expecting him to react you are doing it for the wrong reasons. Have you ever thought that by letting go you would show "unselfishness".
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I plan to call my L today
Good.
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and ask him to draft up a SA that gives up everything to my H
Personally, I do not think this is the right choice; however if this is what YOU want then go ahead. Just make sure it is what YOU want. I would suggest taking a few days off before you decided on any course of action.
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but it is over
PMA - positive mental attitude! It ain't over till the fat lady sings. Time can do wonders - give him his time and take YOUR time - do not rush and do not believe it is over.
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It is time to give in and give up.
If that is what YOU want but I think you feel this way because....
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I feel tired and the pain of my H's behavior (or spewing) is sometimes more than I can take.
Detach...detach....detach...work on you...work on you...work on you...heal....heal....heal.... Once you do this YOU will be in a much better place.
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Thinking about moving to another city, and starting over.
You need to start all over again...you do..however, you need to start all over in YOU - moving is not needed but if that is what YOU want - go for it.
Don't quit - hold you head up high. These are his issues not yours. Your job in this is to work on yourself - find your inner strength! I know you can do this so stop running. Most people will run - you my dear are stronger than this but you need some time to heal and recoupe. Take this time..take this time...
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
