I need a little advice here. I have already mentioned about my W contact with OM. We spoke the other day and I told her I saw the pics from sisters Bday party and asked who the guy in the photos was. She said it was him. I told her that I could see by his body language that he was interested in bieng more than just friends. I told her that if she wants to go out and have an affair then I couldn't stop her, but she must just remember that doing something like this would be the worst thing for her to do right now. Not just for me but for her. I also told her that she must also remember that he too is married with 2 children and does she really want to go there? As I said before she says she needs to be by herself right now and work on "finding herself again" and I told her that how can she work on herself if she is pouring all her energy into having an affair with OM. She said she knows this. She also said she hardly sees him anyway. Just to clarify - they dont work in the same office so she doesn't see him everyday, which means when she does see him it has to be organised between them. I also mentioned something obout the other OM (the one she contacts every now and then on FB) which she has sent messages to a few times already this yr and 1 message just the day before I spoke to her about this. She sad she hasn't contacted him in long and told me that the last time she heard from him on FB was almost a year ago and she told me about it( I do vaugely remember it). so I asked her "so you haven't made contact with him at all lately?" she said no "not at all this year?" she said no. She was on her way to work and I left it at that. The thing that hit me hardest was. I always thought she was (and I think she was)a very honest person, and bieng truthfull was very high up on her list of moral values. But here she was looking me straight in the eyes and lying to me. By the content of the FB messages, it doesnt sound like she has actually seen him, but the fact that she lied to me about him makes me wonder where it is going. Anyway I am more concerned about the other guy. I just dont know what to do. Do I confront her with evidence that she has been making contact and that I know that she is lying to me about things and it is not acceptable. Or doI bide my time until I have concrete proof because at the moment I dont have any proof that she is having an A with anyone, although I do consider her relationship with her work friend an EA. I would really appreciate some input on this one. Thanks
