PS one more positive - H asked if I wanted to make Passover dinner here for his side of the family. He comes from East Coast Jews, so this is the big holiday. Last couple of years, my MIL made the passover dinner.
a)I haven't been invited to the last few IL-family gettogethers - first one in a while b)H wants to host a family dinner AT OUR HOUSE, not his apt, or not avoid the separate housing issue at all. He could have just told him mom to do it again but holidays at our house=good thing. Homey. c) We'll be cooking, hosting, and cleaning up together, H and I. MOre bonding time. d)Compare this to last October when H's dad came out here from the east coast. H didn't even want me in the house when he invited his dad over. No "family dinners" including me at all.Now the whole gang is coming.
