Lose the video games, they don't model you as a mature adult she can depend on to love and protect her and future children... they make you look childish.
You show appreciation by DOING things for the home that she can benefit from. That's all you ahve to do.
Do the grocery shopping, do the laundry... these are all ways to show someone that you care.. Do all the things she did for you...
You jsut need to be creative, you CAN pursue here without pursuing her... pursue a happy home, and give her the space to see you do it.
Do you have friends or family who have kids? Invite them over - often...show your wife you are a family man, that should surprise her... again you can invite people over and shower them with charm and warmth, your wife will see all fo that and you arne't pursuing.
