Young I hope you keep posting updates. I'm so charmed and thrilled by your last one. It makes my heart warm to hear that some old woulds that have been festering may have a chance to heal up now. I think so many people who have been married for a long time and who have deep old-standing resentments rarely get the chance to find the insight necessary to see how these resentments are not serving them any longer. It seems that sometimes resentment feels comfortable, and the person feeling it may not even realize why it feels comfortable or question it. They are just used to it and they no longer ask themselves if it is still something they feel so much importance about. I see your wife as having a huge chance to change all of that now....baby steps to be sure, but wow, what great progress!
