How to approach W about OM

[OfficerInNeed]

When this all began and I was going through changes I felt strongly we would make it through this. I would ask "what is holding us back" she would say "I just don't believe this is real, you have not said things like this to me in a very long time" then came her nasty streak. It was like anytime I would project happiness our talk about the future she would remind me she is leaving. She thought I was overlooking the severity of the situation. Slowly the hugs, kisses and ILY started to fade. That might had more to do with the OM I think. Now I am in an odd situation....where some say if I say or do that it would be pursuit and pressure her but knowing what my wife always wanted from me it seems right to say or do. But now I am very hesitant in what I do or say.

She does ask me to do things for her, we do things together...I don't know just all feels unreal