I've been in the Air Force for 20 years.

Today I recieved a Facebook message from a friend of ours who said she s done with my W. She says she has several times over the last couple weeks e-mailed her, facebooked her and texted her about getting together for lunch, dinner, drinks, coffee, anything just to catch up and W has ignored. She says the issues between the W and I started before I deployed.

The part I don't like is when the friend said she has kept her mouth shut because she doesn't want to get involved with what is going on with us because she cares about us both. She says she's pissed off that there is so much she want's to tell me but she doesn't want to be the bad guy and possibly ruin our progress. She also thinks my W can be a vindictave bitch, and if things are working out between us than thats great and she doesn't want to add fuel to the fire. She says maybe she will tell me everything in good time.

I'm really not sure how to take this message and what I should do about it. Naturally I want to know and obviously I'm thinking the worse. I can't handle any more than I already know until I get home.

This is already starting to bring me down. I had to go see a doctor because things just weren't right with me. I was shaking, upset stomach, constant headaches. The stress and emotions have just been all the place for me. He did a complete work up and I was healthy. Unfortunately, their now sending me over to mental health to be evaluated.

I just don't know what to do right now.


Married 18
Me 39
W 37
D 15
D 5
Divorce Filed 8 April 2010
Beginning of Reconcile 8 Sept