MLC - standing by my man

[Mach1]

I'm doing it as much for ME as for him. It's just the way I'm.

So you are halfway there ?

This needs to be every bit about you right now.....

There is a balance in that, that needs to be found....

Keep looking, most of the people here keep theirs in their mirror......

Look there yet ?

[Mila]

I was just wondering if OW H has been truthful with you. To me, it appears that he has, so how did he become the common enemy?

By contrast, your h IS lying to you and has flaunted his ow pretty much in your face. Is he still flying a great distance to see her?

The problem here kimmie is that OWH & I have been talking you could say "intimately" about our lives with our spouses and exchanged lots of information, OWH has chosen to use it (take it out of context and exaggerate) to attack and put down my WH in the eyes of the OW & everyone else who would listen.

I on the other hand didn't tell my H anything OWH said about OW. Truth is I did find out from OWH about the free work H is doing for her company and I did bring that up - but thats business.

Anyway I'm out of that, I will not volunteer anything private to OWH. I need to "lovingly detach" (Yes I still love my H despite of what he is doing) and I also need to respect myself no matter how things turn out.

[Mila]

OP The OWH probably didn't mean to hurt me or the situation. He seams like a nice guy, but he is so desperate to win his wife back that he is doing all the wrong things.

[Mila]

Thanks Mach,

My goal is just that... To look in the mirror and be happy with what (who) I see.

[kissak]

Wow a weekend away with your daughter! How fun! I have to say that the vacations that I took my kids on when their dad was gone was some of the best times we had! Of course it always felt like someone was missing, but it was nice to just get away from things. Enjoy your weekend with your daughter!!! Just go and have a great time! Make new memories!!! My H always seemed to "miss" me when I would go, even though he had the OW. Guess he was down that he was missing out too on our "family" events.

[Mila]

Hi Kissak, I'm in Whistler, Canada now for my weekend away. The place is still buzzing with the Olympics. It's pretty exciting, lots of things to do in the "willage". Right after I finish this post, I'll go out...there are street concerts, performance, dancing...tonight will be FUN!!!!

I think my WH feels left out. He called this morning to ask me about our weekend details, wanted to know what we will be doing and told me to be careful. Also asked If he can call me "about business" if he needs to.

Later he texted with D16 to check if we are already there and apparently said "say hi to mom".

I know that he misses being here with us. We loved coming up here as a family.

[Grace_O]

My goal is just that... To look in the mirror and be happy with what (who) I see.

Mila,

I hope you are happy with what you see. I also hope you see the reality of who you are and if there are things you don't care for, put them on a goal list and work 'em.

Enjoy the weekend!

[kissak]

I hope you have a great time!! Enjoy!!!

[Mila]

Thank you kissak. My spirits are up, it's a beautiful sunny morning in the mountains. Lots of things to do and that helps me not to think about WH as much. It's ME time!!!!

[Mila]

I hope you are happy with what you see. I also hope you see the reality of who you are and if there are things you don't care for, put them on a goal list and work 'em

Hi Grace, most days I'm happy with what I see in the mirror (I'm not talking about my wrinkles :P). I also recognize that I'm "work in progress" and I do have issues that hold me back that I have to work on