5 more days till the Big D

[~Sol]

Hey brkn - it almost sounds like you are talking about my coo-coo X! Could it be they are one in the same? Boy, that would be weird eh?

I understand those feelings you have about your W, she hurt you. Just like mine hurt me. I don't think those negative feelings will ever go away, but they do diminish. The important thing is learning how to process them. For me, instead of wishing my X failure and misery (which is what I really feel), I just focus on being ultra successful in life without my X - as a way to "get back at her", show her what she's missing, etc etc. In actually, it's kinda like therapy, and it gives me a goal to work on, but on more levels than just making success the best revenge. But it works - for me - I am really trying to make a successful future out of the many failures in my life - and it's forcing me to change, making me face my demons, lots of growing pains, doing things I don't normally like doing (like being submissive to my boss even though he might be wrong), or working on creating my business instead of watching Discovery Channel.

You are on the right path in making your own friends. It really helps a lot.