I think the trick is when we realize and present to our children the fact that human beings are just that, human beings. They get confused, they make mistakes and they sometimes hurt each other. The things our spouses may have done to us were not right but usually they've been dealing with their own pain longer than we ever realized. When we thought we were living the good life they were living something they experienced as entirely different. Whose fault is that? Probably both parties to some degree. Certainly, we can yell "but I didn't cheat" and there is some validity to that but when people hurt they do some terrible things. I remember my Pastor saying to me "the one thing I've learned in this job is that good people in difficult situations can do some really bad things" We don't need to present our spouses as evil nor do we need to defend them, we just have to present them as they are...as human beings.
