When my husband told me that he never intended to hurt me with his affair, I believed him. And I still believe him. I know that hurting me was an unintended consequence.
Ah, now we get to the truth at last... You are taking this as a personal attack. Did I ever at any time suggest that your husband wanted to hurt you? Nope, i don't believe I have made a comment to that effect.
My counter-argument I won't put up here again, i have said it countless times... if you cut the cheater slack, you have to do the same for people who expose affairs.
Originally Posted By: Lotus
That is why we are reconciled. A person with your beliefs could not reconcile. You have no plan past the exposure because you can't forgive. You can't go back and have a loving relationship with the person who hurt you because you will not accept the idea of unintentional hurt. I feel sorry for you.
Most of this part is you mind-reading.. according to MWD this is a big no-no in communication isnt' it?
You have no idea what my plans are, my commitment to forgiveness, nor what I will accept as intentional or unintentional.
You in fact are the one here condemning those who expose affairs as being vindictive and suggesting we exonerate cheaters as only hurting people by accident in the same paragraph... I suggest you reconsider your position .. as it stands it's wide open to attack yet again.
I feel sorry for people who miss out on quality information because they chose to misread a good post.
