When my husband told me that he never intended to hurt me with his affair, I believed him. And I still believe him. I know that hurting me was an unintended consequence.
That is why we are reconciled. A person with your beliefs could not reconcile. You have no plan past the exposure because you can't forgive. You can't go back and have a loving relationship with the person who hurt you because you will not accept the idea of unintentional hurt. I feel sorry for you.
