Sometimes the cheater doesn't want to hurt the spouse.
Your speaking from one side.
I agree with you.. on the first point, but in both cases the INTENTIONS are in the MIND of the actors... one can make some assessmetns of behviour to suggest some conscience be here, but in the case of Lotus' full argument she is assuming the BEST CASE for the cheaters and the WORST case for the WS exposing the affair.
THAT is NOT one sided.. its basic logic.
If you are going to cut the CHEATERs some slack you had damn well better cut the ABANDONED SPOSUE the SAME AMOUNT of SLACK...which is NOT being done here, the best and worst cases are assumed to be the truth... this is your idea of FAIR?
