WAW in PA-I Moved Out in Error & D has been Filed

[Puppy Dog Tails]

So why did you take her call?

Ask her to communicate with you only for financial and logistical important stuff, and you do the same, and do it ONLY VIA E-MAIL OR TEXT MESSAGE.

Problem solved. It takes TWO people to have a conversation, and therefore, an argument.

Puppy

[Quart9]

The tax person told me she was going to call W and I knew that was why W was calling me. At this point, she would only call me for financial and logistical reasons and that would be the only reason I would want to talk to her.

We didn't really argue. I just made the mistake of asking her if she would be available to communicate about this once I figured out my end. I should have just TOLD her I would call her back. It's the freak'n torture of her being with OM and needing to communicate with her. It stirs me up.

Your right though- she and I should talk about it by text or e-mail and I that is what I will do. That would help keep record of it too.

[MrBond]

Do what benefits you.

If your financial aid is going to be affected, then file individually. She's not considering your feelings, why should consider hers? The thing is to make things harder for her with a dose of reality. Not easier.

What about your stuff? Tell her you are coming by a certain date with a friend and plan to get your stuff. And that if she can't be there, that you would need a copy of her key somewhere. If not, then you will have a locksmith open the door. You need to start asserting YOUR rights.

[Quart9]

I agree Mr Bond. I'm just wondering if I would have any responsbility to pay any of the $ she would owe if we filed separately. I haven't been able to reach the financial aid lady I usually talk to and I called my L and left a message to find out what my liabilty would be.

I agree with you about getting my stuff. That's pretty much what I have decided to do. I talked to my buddy and we are going to his storage unit this weekend. I gonna help him organize it and clean some stuff out. He is happy to have me put some of my stuff in there and split the cost with him. We are shooting for next Wed to go get my stuff.

Gotta get these loose ends tied up. The quicker the better.

[MrBond]

I would say that since her income was used to by food, clothes, utilities, etc. for both of you, then you need to help pay. However, pay for only the period that you were living together.

Is your tuition covered totally by financial aid or partially by her? If you don't have a job, how are you paying for your apartment and basic living expenses?

[Quart9]

We were together for all of 2009 and I would suppose the courts would make us share the cost. She doesn't understand the concept of saving money so even if it were a small sum that were due she would be in trouble.

My tuition is paid by private loans, federal loans, and a scholarship - no help from her (she did co-sign for the loans though). My living expenses are covered now by the remainder of the school loans that are not used to pay tution. Luckily, I do know how to budget and save though.

I honestly don't want her to have to pay. It sucks because she makes so much money that I'm not elligible to receive grants or additional scholarship money.

[MrBond]

Then you're going to have to find some way to pay her directly to help pay off the taxes since you did benefit from her earnings.

[Quart9]

But I don't wanna play fair. No, I know you are right. I haven't been able to straighten this out today. There's always tomorrow! This makes me want to drink more green beer.

[Quart9]

Though I intended to only talk to W by text or e-mail we actually talked by phone yesterday evening. Told her I hadn't gotten very far in figuring out my end of the tax bit but I would today.

I told her that I would get a hold of her today and let her know what I found out. She said, "no, no don't contact me tomorrow, we can talk on Sat when I'm at work but I'm off tomorrow and I will be busy..." In other words she was going to be with OM and didn't want me to contact her while she was with him. I'd hate to mess up their vibe ya know.

I'm sure they slept in the same bed last night, got to wake up with each other this morning, and will spend the day together today. Bullsh!t. I just don't get how things moved so fast for them, especially with them both still being married.

Oh well gotta put Mr. Jealousy away for a while. For me it's a lil exercise now, then figure out the tax thing, sketch help this afternoon, and maybe a little carousing tonight. Yippee!

[MrBond]

They are in the high of being "in love". When that happens, things move VERY fast. In the midst of all this craziness, I was kind of going out with someone and by the second month, she was discussing how our future could be, kids, etc.

From that experience, I can see how the WAS gets the feeling of moving on and being free.