Are you getting good marital advice?

[chatterbug]

I never exposed to work. The only place i did not. I talked to OMW and she said not to. So I said. Ok. I will honour that request. And just kept exposure to friends of the marriage and family. And I told friends that in no way was I saying to stop talking to ladybug. But I set a boundary. Any friend of the marriage who did anything with both of them was no longer my friend. They could support Ladybug. But not the affair. Our friends have kept to that agreement. And the two who did not. I no longer talk to them. I asked this request to family as well. Family has honoured it to this day. Exposure was to get support for the marriage. Exposure was to make sure I was not alone. Exposure was to bring the affair to the light. It was the path of tough love. I will go to my grave believing it was the right choice. Not only did I set up my own support group with friends and family but I also set up hers for down the road when the affair ends. My friends and family on both sides allowed me to lean on them when I was lost. I will be forever grateful for that. It was a hard thing to do. Harder than kicking her out after the days of Plan A. But it was the right thing to do.

I think Blaise Pascal summed it up rather well.

We know the truth, not only by the reason, but by the heart.

As did Galileo Galilei

All truths are easy to understand once they are discovered; the point is to discover them.