Excellent introductory post on this subject... very well done.
I will add in the case of the third party violating the marriage if you can humiliate them in their workplace, particularly if they hold a position in public profile, you aren't likley to get support, but it will often put PRESSURE on the affair...
so in that case it may need to be done with more force.. "Stay away from my wife you sleazy creep" shouted in the middle of an office riddled with cubicles is not going to get you any support, but it MAY drive the OP away.. public humiliation of the third party is powerful leverage in some cases.. in some cases it wont' matter.. particularly if the only people you can humiliate them in front of are just as immature as they are...
The dynamics of exposure, and the approaches to it vary dramatically depending on who the audience is.
Exposure to your friends and your family is an entirely different business...
And no, its not easy, I have read many cases o this forum where the LBS was very apprehensive about this route...
And I don't believe MWD advocated this anywhere in her writing.. I could be wrong, but I don't recall seeing anything from her advocating this technique...
