Maybe, but exposing at work can be a hollow victory, much like jumping out of an airplane without a parachute. If your goal is reconciliation, you might not want to burn your bridges in a nice, satisfying exposure. However, if your end goal is to hurt the spouse and call it even, go ahead. As they say, "revenge is a dish best eaten cold".
I have said dozens of times now that I do not recommend exposure unless the end result is to end the affair.
I have never advocated exposure as an instrument of revenge... I don't know any expert on infidelity that does.
Who said exposure is satisfying? Most LBS' dont' LIKE exposing because they have to embarass themselves in doing so... which is why I don't reccomend exposing to anyone unless you expect to get support for your marriage from them.
The few exceptions are for OPS. IF the third party in an affair is married I highly reccomend exposure to them, even if you dont' get a supportive response. this WILL often upset the affair and force it into the open...
I always reccomend asking the question "what kind of support will I get exposing to this person" BEFORE exposing..
Humiliating the OP or third party is a separate matter.. that is opening up their behaviour to public scruitiny and in some cases this can apply pressure to the affair.. people don't like being the subject of gossip.
I have no idea where you get the idea exposure is about revenge... I don't recall anyone suggesting this...
