Feels good to break the old/bad patterns, huh? 80% of the success in in our head. I believe that. I've tested my tehory with myself and it proved correct. Dont underestimate the impact positive attitude makes.
What seemed to work with my H during the "fights" we had lately, was when I told him "listen, our goal is the same, a good M, we are on the same side, right and wrong doenst it matter, we need to be thinking SOLUTIONS". It clicked in his head. He stopped and changed his tone of voice...
I believe when we get into piecing as rivals (us and spouses) we make it impossible. And it is hard to shift the before piecing attitude -speaking about myself- where he was "the enemy". We SHOULD be on the same side on this. What we are trying to figure out, is how to be effective. Teamwork.
The goal is clear. Now, let's just DO IT damn it! K
