Exposure

[WhatNow]

I have been reading a lot of comments on the exposure of an affair, and am frustrated by the misunderstandings surrounding it as a technique to end an affair. I think it needs its' own thread.

I hope to clarify what exposure is and how/when it is to be used. First by giving my opinion on it and then fine tuning my opinion based upon your experiential anecdotes and readings of experts on infidelity.

I have seen the following misconceptions discussed, so I will start with what exposure is not.

1. Exposure is not something you threaten. You do it, swiftly and completely, without warning.

2. Exposure is not to be done with a bullhorn. It is carefully planned and executed to select family, friends, and coworkers, to seek support of the marriage.

3. Exposure is not a form of revenge. It is not done in anger. It is done calmly and respectfully.

4. Exposure is not done to hurt the affair couple. It is not done to make people mad at the couple and cause drama. It is done to shine light on hurtful and deceitful behavior.

5. Exposure is not for the weak. It takes GUTS. Mainly because it probably will push the AP's together for a time, but that time will include much negative drama and conflict between them.

I'll detail my own exposure intervention later. gotta run for now.

Let me know what you think and please add to my list.