flowmom | need to commit to myself

[flowmom]

I have the never even looked or thought about another since met H problem too. I'm not sure that it WILL go away actually. I don't know if it goes away for everyone. I have met women and men who, post-D, say they are "done" for life and are living that reality. And no, they don't necessarily have "issues." I think people should be realistic and that how great divorce is books and individual therapists give people the idea that they DEFINITELY will meet their LIFELOVE around the corner. No. Reality doesn't bear that out. You only have some percentage chance of that.

Thanks for writing that rr. It bothers me that people act like OF COURSE you'll have a fantastic love/sex life soon. What I know about myself is that I have a fiercely loyal heart.