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This is NOT taking sides, other than taking the side of the marriage over taking the side of the affair.

this was exactly my point when I talked with friends who I hoped would talk with xH. and exactly why I was appalled at their response.

M60
H52
D20
M14 yrs
OW-old gf from 1986
bomb-5/18/08
H filed for D-9/10/08
D final 4/24/09
xH remarried (not OW) 2012